Monday, January 14, 2013

A ravaged Society


(Very rarely do I venture into writing on topics of current interest. A humorist, I am afraid, tends to be taken for a joker and is very seldom taken seriously unless his humor takes the form of Satire – which mine doesn’t. Sometimes, however, there are things that refuse to remain unsaid)
The horrendous incident in Delhi and the aftermath have left us all questioning ourselves about the sort of Society that we have built. Yes, it is not merely a Society we live in but a Society we have had a hand in making – with our thoughts, deeds and the behavior we build in our children. In particular we need to be concerned about what is in the minds of the youth of this country.
Four questions, I think, require answering before we talk of how we can make things better.
Should men be sexually attracted at all to women? If not, what in Society gets them so attracted and what needs to be changed?
On the face of it, it seems an absurd question. It seems obvious that men will be sexually attracted to women. Almost all religions, however, view such sexual attraction as taboo – except in the accepted manner between husband and wife. Even when it comes to that, there are some religions that seem to consider it as sinful and think that sexual activity – other than for procreation – is sinful.
Further, when it comes to sexual attraction, it is considered the weakness – not a sin - of men alone. A woman’s sexual interest – even for her husband – is considered unnatural. In short, they are seen as 'objects of sexual desire' and not as participants. It is further assumed that the dress and behavior of women can either provoke the libido of men or not. Thus, women tend to get labeled between the Sati Savitris and the temptresses – with no other category possible in-between.
Therefore, for a woman, if your dress or behavior does not fit the strait-jacket image of a Sati Savitri, you are by definition a temptress. It is this mind-set that causes the ‘leaders’ to mouth off the absurdities that we have been hearing these days. Since they consider sexual attraction as somehow sinful, they seek to offer solutions that will, in their ‘considered’ opinion, avert the possibility.
Obviously, what needs to change is that mind-set. Even assuming that this idea of a completely channeled sexual interest is desirable – and assuming that requires an infinitely elastic stretch of the mind particularly when you consider that it, inter alia, includes the absence of any sexual interest in a woman’s mind – it is an ideal that can be aspired to but not achieved by all, as in the case of any ideals. An unforgiving approach to the non-achievement of this ideal – and the consequent diatribes about the dress and behavior of women – is totally unwarranted.
Should men be free to force sexual attentions on women – ranging from molestation to rape? If not, what in Society makes some feel like doing it and what needs to be changed?
The fact that it is considered natural for men for feel sexual interest for women does not necessarily mean that it is equally as natural for them to force their attentions on women. The first right of any person is the right over her own body – life, bodily harm whatever – and there is a vast difference between wanting to have sex and feeling entitled to do so.
How then do some men feel free to force their attentions on women? One major reason is the assumption – built over the generations – that women are subordinate to them and exacerbated by the fact that they see women who refuse to accept this subordinate role. Another is their own sense of impotence in their social roles and the need to regain some measure of power by exercising it over those whom they think they can subdue.
The one thing that the ‘leaders’ of our Society seem to be unable to understand – always crediting them for having the necessary equipment to understand – is the fact that, when they mouth off about how women act as temptresses, the message they pass on to the fringe elements is that it is ‘all right’ to molest or rape a woman who does not behave like the ideal ‘Sati Savitri’. This sort of assumption of tacit social sanction to such behavior can only exacerbate the situation.
Not that the attentions of molesters is restricted to the so-called ‘temptresses’. I mean, it is difficult to see how three year-olds and five year olds could have appeared like the Rambhas and Menakas of yore. The other reason that contributes to this behavior is the fact that they assume the silence of the victim – which they may consider near-certain in small children and highly probable even in adults considering that there is still a lot of social opprobrium attached to having been a rape victim.
Lastly, of course, is the fact that the molesters may be confident of not being punished for their crime even if the crime is exposed.
Unless the views about acceptable behavior by women as well as the status of women changes in Society and Society learns to treat victims with compassion, a radical reduction of such crimes may not be possible. The certainty of being punished would, however, go a long way to reducing such crimes.
In case there are laws in place to avert undesirable social behavior, should the Police be an arbiter of whether to accept the lodging of such a case or of the manner in which they treat the person lodging the case? Is an underlying mindset in Society a sufficient excuse for the Police not doing its duty in the manner prescribed? If not, what are the measures to be put in place to ensure that the laws are enforced as prescribed?
The problems in getting the perpetrators punished start from the time the attempt is made to lodge a complaint. Considering that getting the perpetrators punished largely depends on the investigative process, the behavior of the Police is crucial to this issue. The news and views about Police behavior makes it difficult to believe that a victim can even muster the courage to go and lodge the complaint in the first place.
One of the major reasons that seem to crop up is that the Police come from the same Society we come from and are informed by the same opinions. Does that mean that any change in the perceived behavior of the Police can come only if the underlying structure of Society is improved?
It is undeniable that a change in Society will necessarily improve the behavior of the Police. But it does not seem to me to be a necessary pre-condition. I have yet to hear that it is understandable for a Police constable to not salute a Woman MP or Minister because he comes from a Society with male chauvinistic tendencies. If organizational discipline can instill one sort of ‘unnatural’ behavior, it can instill others as well. It is, then, for the Police department to ensure that discipline in such behavior is instilled in its officials – by punitive action if necessary.
Of course, it is also necessary to ensure faster processing of cases in the legal system – fast-track courts, if need be. I am not a votary of the belief that stricter laws and strict and efficient enforcement serve no purpose in reducing crime. To me it appears much like arguing that since there is so much crime anyway we might as well dispense with the Police.
Is it acceptable behavior - in the Society that we want to live in - for the common man to sidestep a scene of crime and go about his business? If not, what needs to be changed?
The fact remains that a lot of crimes – including molestation – happen in public and the public prefers not to get involved. This avoidance of involvement may have become an ingrained cultural trait – a sort of misplaced sense of allowing other people their privacy – or it may have its roots in selfishness or fear.
Society needs to assume that people will be selfish to an extent. If the involvement in the stopping of a crime requires too much investment in time and inconvenience, it requires a far higher quantum of selflessness on the part of a person to get himself involved. This, in effect, mean that the organs of Government with whom such people may need to interact must instill confidence in the public about being considerate of their time.
The fear of getting involved arises from the distrust in authority that has been built into our psyches. Unfortunately, government officials – including the Police - have been seen and have seen themselves as people with authority rather than as public servants to such an extent that the phrase public servant seems to connote Royalty to Indians. Thus, even without the perpetrators threatening dire consequences because of who they are, the public prefers to avoid getting in touch with any organ of government unless absolutely necessary.
Yet another problem is that there is no real sense of community in India. We have family, we have friends and then we have the rest of the world. There is no real sense of ownership to the area or city we live in. Unless a sense of community is developed, we will continue to ignore crime around us.
It is perhaps time that we started developing community institutions –community service and what have you - that shall not only help develop a sense of community but shall also bring us in touch with public servants as people instead of authority figures, thereby eliminating in part, at least, that ingrained fear of authority.
The discussions I have heard, hitherto, seem to consider social change and changes in the legal system as some sort of either-or alternatives to the issue of attempting a solution of this problem. Social change is most necessary and every possible step needs to be taken in this regard. That is a long-drawn process, however, and there will always be fringe elements who shall indulge in crime regardless of what Society thinks of it. Stricter laws and strict enforcement, therefore, need to go hand-in-hand with any attempt at Social change.

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30 comments:

  1. that's a very in depth analysis of the current scenario...I found myself nodding in approval at so many of the points u made, the mindset definitely needs to undergo a sea of change, stricter punishments too are needed to dissuade the criminals and living as a community will make our place much safer too.. very well written!

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  2. Thought provoking! Thoughtfully written! Grand work Suresh!!

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  3. Indeed, social change is the only permanent cure to the depraved ethos but social change is one slow animal. It will take a long time coming.

    Did you read about the rapist-killer of a 9 year old girl whose death sentence was commuted to life by by the High Court? The monster went ahead and raped and slaughtered another nine year old girl right after being released from the jail.

    You have raised questions involving religion and
    sexuality. It is entirely debatable but religion also postulates the concepts of instant punishment. Indeed, you will find extreme versions in certain religions. We take pride in calling ourselves a secular country and as such, our laws have to be uniform. And our law has to be able to snap its fangs on the delinquent quickly.

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    1. My point about Religion's view of sexuality is restricted Uma! I mean given the religious view that sexual interest is taboo and the view that women are the 'temptresses', people who adopt it tend to see the woman as a culprit unless she sticks to the mores of a 'Sati Savitri'. Unfortunately, as we see, quite a few 'leaders' seem to adopt that view.

      You do not see that view in any other crime, however. Most religions tend to view accumulation of wealth as also taboo - but one does not tend to blame the rich man for a robbery in his house!

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  4. Well said. There is no justification for this crime nor there will be in coming years. I am no one decide the fate or punishment of those devils but if they give me a choice, I will...........

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  5. the root cause of these crimes is the mindset, however, changing the mindset of so many people would be a herculean task. there are many 'so called' educated people who consider women as 'objects of sexual desire.' these people and many others are capable of committing such crime but they don't, because they fear the consequences. those who commit such crimes are hardcore criminals and they know how flawed the entire system is. unless fear of consequences is instilled in the society, such crimes will continue to happen. western countries are considered progressive but some of the most horrendous crimes against women are reported there on a regular basis.

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    1. Precisely my point Debs when I said that 'strict laws and stricter enforcement' are necessary! Thanks for coming over and commenting in detail!

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  6. Who said humorists are not taken seriously by people when they write on socially relevant issues? If I remember right, I had become a follower after reading your post on losing sight. You deal with such subjects sensitively and analytically. I had dwelt on the last point you have mentioned as a complete post, because while others are ingrained in our psyches, the sense of community can be imbibed, at any age and by anyone. Don't we have people turning model citizens as soon as they leave the shores of our country and begin acting like slobs the moment they enter it? We are a selfish people who look for ulterior motives in every action of ours and losing one's place in society or losing popularity makes us behave most despicably.

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    1. Thanks Zephyr- I love to hear that my serious posts are taken seriously.

      In addition to imbibing a sense of community, I think that law enforcement can also be improved - since that is more a question of instilling discipline in an organization than changing the way people think.

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  7. I am impressed!This is a very deeply thought out & extremely well analysed post on the topic--THE BEST i have read so far.Thanks for clearing the mesh.We all are pained & wish the conditions would change,you tell us why & what needs to be done.Thanks.

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    1. That is high praise, indeed, Indu and coming from you, who are the doyen on writing about social issues, it is much more impressive.

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  8. Fine analysis of the current senario of our society Suresh. However, I daresay, that the way you look at things may not be the same way I or someone else would look at them. There is one thing that we must admit as being human, repetition of an act gives birth to boredom and avoidance.

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    1. I could not quite get this comment, Diwa! People view differently, yes, but what was it about repetition of the act etc. etc. ?

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    2. Repetiton of rape/molestation cases - Though it is one the serious issues of our country, we tend to forget such incidents very soon.

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    3. This lack of attention span is the biggest favor we do to criminals

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  9. Great analysis Sir and equally well put, in a way that is lucid and succint. Hard hitting words.
    You must write social commentaries more frequently :)

    I daresay the social change you have talked about has already been given a huge impetus by this brutal incident. I mean, people are at least ready to talk about a rape this openly, as I observe those men in my circle doing who would rather pretend things like this don't happen. Men and women are in it together, braving biting cold and water cannons, girls are carrying slogans that would sound 'provocative' to most of Indians, and politicians now know that they can't get away easily after making regressive remarks (you know what I mean if you saw Abhijeet Mukherjee in the newshour debate with Arnab Goswami). The protests haven't fizzled out yet and people have taken a pledge this time not to forget the issue. Hope is all I have.

    Meanwhile, the law and order system also appears to be slowly waking up from its slumber. If only we all could make women's safety the issue on which the next elections are fought, the pace would pick up I'm sure.

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    1. True Sudha! Hope is all we have - and persistence, I hope, this time

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  10. and just when I thought you were great with humor, you write such a thought provoking post. I agree with you strict enforcement of law is needed. If people can't change on their own lets force them into changing. And as parents and elders lets teach our younger generation humanity and brotherhood.

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    1. Thanks TTT! Hope this has not changed your opinion about my humor abilities :)

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  11. You have rightly pointed the pin that we need a sense of connectivity. When we won't turn up for anyone's help, we would definitely find ourselves lonely at our miserable condition. God help!

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  12. You have done a commendable analysis and have possibly covered all aspects. As a woman, I am emotionally involved in this topic. Frankly I could not bring myself to write rationally on this topic because of the anger I felt.

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    1. Thanks, Rachna! Good to hear that I can write something serious too!

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  13. Great objectivity. I also wonder if crimes on women have nothing to do with sex really. It is all about exerting control over someone who is deemed weaker.
    You were right from the get go in the essay. We have ended up building a dysfunctional society. Mere tinkering or policing it, rather than a complete overhaul of our beliefs and value-system, will be akin to putting bandaid on gangrene.

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    1. Thanks Rickie! Sex may be a part of it, may be the sole reason in a few cases but not in the majority of the cases in my opinion.

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