Thoughtful remembrance

Did I mention earlier about forgetting people? One of the greatest wonders of the world is how everyone, but everyone, will go gaga about how the most important thing in the world is relationships. AND relationships automatically means people. (Yeah, yeah, I know, but not everyone can create a Microsoft or Twitter OR rename the latter as X, you know. OUR jobs do take second place to relationships...eventually (when you chuck us out) if not now.) AND then, on the heels of sharing twenty memes about relationships, you snap at your significant other about being disturbed when you are answering an oh-so-important email.

Tiru, while on the subject of forgetfulness, has this to say...

Izhukkaamai yaarmaattum endrum vazhukkaamai vaayin adhuvoppadhu il - Tirukkural

Nothing yields as much good as unfailing thoughtfulness towards all people at all times - Loose translation

THAT is what Tiru says. To remember all the people you have interacted with and what they have done for you; to remember what they need and what they care for; and to remember to TELL them that you remember them...THAT yields the greatest of good to you, as per Tiru.

For example, nothing breeds loyalty as much as the 'big man' remembering you and wishing you on your birthday. No? Nothing makes a person as joyous as to have his past achievements mentioned and lauded when he leasts expects it. I can go on and on about how remembering people in a thoughtful manner makes them enthusiastic supporters. (Oh! HR sending out birthday emails is not exactly the same thing. Sorry!)

The point is that when you display that you see them as PEOPLE (and not resources!) and also see them as special in their own way, you cause them to feel that YOU are human, after all, and not just the 'boss'. THAT's when you develop a strong relationship. Two cogs in a wheel only develop friction; it's only two humans who can develop a relationship.

So, yes, Tiru does talk specifically about thoughtfully remembering people. AND calls it the greatest good.

HR, of course, will call it EQ.